I was about to “thumbs-up” your original post at the top of the thread here … cuz I can TOTALLY relate to your situation. No matter what’s at Youtube or anything posted here, I honestly believe that there is NO way to custom-bend an ear wire to fit our heads in a cosmetically pleasing fashion. You either have the perfect head shape so the wire lays flat or you don’t. And I DON’T.
That said, I have to share a couple things I’ve tried: first, I tried twisting the ear tip 180 degrees, then inserting it into my ear canal. The result was a beatiful, flat fitting wire!!! But. The tension in that ear wire is so terrific that the behind-ear unit would literally “FLIP THE BEAN!” and fly up and over my head to dangle like a low-hung fruit in front of my ear. 
Definitely not the look I wanted.
Then, I read right on this forum about ear wire lengths being available in short, medium or long. In fact, there is a paper chart audis can use to see what length is best for their patients. My current earwires were LONG. So I asked my current audi to change out just the wire to one that was a size shorter? She did, and voila! That goofy looping wire has pretty much vanished.
You could also try changing the length of your earwire, but I did find that sound quality was ever so slightly compromised. Maybe cuz the new, shorter ear wire prevents the speakers from seating deeper in the ear canal? It’s subtle, but noticeable to me.
Thing is: earwires ARE a critical component to the total hearing aid solution. No thought is given to the cosmetic look/fit of these wires. It’s like telling folks: “We sell S, M or L hiking boots here. So find the best fit and then go on your 20-mi hike!” Good luck not getting a blister.
