I understand what you’re saying Um bongo, and there can be some folk who are going to be in denial about hearing loss - but I would not expect this forum to be a place where there are many folk in denial. Resistant, reluctant, frustrated some are for sure - and that’s just me!
If I could make a comparison: If you are in a bar and having a drink with no ice in it (and you like ice) and you ask the bar-person for some ice in the next round but it doesn’t arrive… you might think they mis-heared, don’t give a monkey’s or some another explanation. For me, it’s similar to that.
It’s a simple request: Please speak up. They don’t. They can be very helpful with other requests but increasing the dB on their voice does not seem to be possible. I work with someone like that, and notably, as seb said, they have excellent hearing (thanks for the 2 cents.)
The ‘Lombard Effect’ presented by Um bongo is so relevant. Some folk don’t seem to have an external reference so when listening to an mp3 player they will talk loudly to make themselves more audible to themselves. The ability to second or third position themselves to other’s auditory perspective seems to be a very challenging activity.
I’m getting used to it and it’s like going out in the car and getting cut up by someone - why get upset? As if it doesn’t happen every time you go out in the car! Every time!
So for my hearing, going to work or out and about, some people are not given to appreciating the difficulties I’m having and are not helpful, even when I specifically request it. Shame. Frustrating, yes. Getting used to it, yes. [Still given to thumping them sometimes ]