First part - Is this with the hearing aids in or hearing aids out? If this is with the hearing aids in, you need to give your brain some time to adjust to the sound. To me, RIC’s sounded very different from size 13 BTE earmolds. It was a new learning curve, but a welcome learning curve for me. It takes patience and commitment to wearing your hearing aids so your brain can actively adjust to the new sounds you may not have been hearing. If you have not been wearing your hearing aids and are trying to go without wearing them for a period of time, you’re going to be straining your ears trying to fill in the blanks which isn’t going to do you any good. If your ears / brain get tired of wearing your hearing aids after a time, you can take a break, but always remember that you won’t benefit from them if you’re not wearing them with the understanding that they’re meant to help you with the daily life situations you’re in that require active listening.
Second part - The “deafer” part comes from your brain looking for information it can’t find because you can’t have your hearing aids in. It’s like a shell shock moment. You need to think about it as though you’re getting more information than you were used to getting before while you were going unaided. Your brain needs to adjust to it, your ear needs to adjust to it, because you’re now feeding new information that you haven’t been receiving for quite some time. It is tiring, just remember to take breaks and not stress yourself out with it. In this situation, you will definitely benefit from a TV streamer. This will keep both you and your significant other happy.
Third part - The only time I wear my hearing aids at night is if I need to hear my nephew in the other room crying. Otherwise, they’re out and in their carrying case.
I hope my answers don’t offend you. They’re just my point of view if I place myself in the same situation you’re in. I’m trying to speak from a standpoint of experience being objective and not just subjective.