One thing i noticed is my wifes uncle has been wearing heaing aids for for 30 years, her other uncle has been wearing them for 20, and im getting my first set soon (im 35) but her 65 year old father refuses to get one because it makes him look (old) he cant hear anything and now thinks everone is leaving him out of conversations when in reality is he cant hear …and he knows it he has been hard of hearing for the last 40 years only its gotten worse over time and now he is deaf …we have tried telling him that his brother got them at 30 years old and while not perfect he hears with them and has repeatably said they aint perfect but hearing imperfectly is better than not hearing at all.
now my father was hard of hearing and didnt want an aid. but it was easy with him he didnt talk or want to be in conversations much. but my wifes fathe wants and demands to be involved with conversations or requires us to have the volume very high with captions on to watch tv or listen to talk radio in the car. whenever in public he shouts so that he can hear himself talk to people including the movie theater… and hes upset now that we refuse to take him to the movies or out to dinner anymore.
My wife thought that perhaps me being 35 years old and healthy but getting a hearing aid because of my ottosclerosis (sp) would help him but he still plays the well the sound aint perfect so i wont use it game.
What do we do Do get him to realize that imperfect hearing with an aid is better than not hearing at all? … he is driving his family away from him because of his paranoia that we are plaking old folk plans for him… when in reality we are talking normal value with his wife about his grandson. He doesnt have any form of dementia, he just see’s how poorly his sister treets his 90 year old mother and since he cant hear anything we say anymore he thinks we are constantly plotting against him.
Ill be honest His lack of hearing yet demanding to be part of everything is putting a strain on his relationship with his siblings his children and his wife.
is there any way to reach this man and convince him that an aid he could go out to dinner or movies with his wife and children again without fear of shouting and disturbing the whole place. that an aid would alow him to go see his daughter in law play play piano, that it would alow him to have a somehwat normal life again.
And for some reason this 67 year old 6 foot 8 man thats bald with whisps of white hair and glasses and pasty skin and a big ol pot belly that wearing a hearing aid will make him look “old” so as long as he is deaf as a doornail and doesnt wear an aid he has avoided being old? its not the fact that his knees are so bad he cant get in and out of the car or couch without pulling himself up on something, or that his reflexes and memory is shot that makes him old… its the silly piece of plastic behind his ear!
Does anyone here have any advice how to reach this difficult person and make him understand that its not us and the whole world around him that has to adjust to him but he has to make an effort to correct his issue himself?
And any advice for us on how we deal with it?