Good to hear I’m not alone! Same issues here.
My wife’s a fast talker and I usually miss that first word or 2 and my brains trying to figure out what it was while she continues at her fast pace. I end up looking like I have more than just a hearing disability! It’s very frustrating!!! I stop to ask her what she said to which she starts telling me the part I did hear several words in and I’ll say no, what did you say, to which she’ll repeat what she just told me. That will happen a few times until I say no the beginning, at which point she’s so frustrated she’s forgotten what it was she started with!
I guess as I type this out it has allowed me to realize I need to say just wait, start at the beginning again, as that would probably make more sense on her end and avoid the aggravation. Live and learn!