I am sorry about your family.
I NEED lip reading and sound at the same time to understand what a person is saying, cant lip read them withh sound cant hear the speech, same goes I can hear speech but NEED to lip read them.
I NEED BOTH.
You say in 30yrs your family isnt trying? - Im 30yrs old, deaf since birth, and I can understand my main 3 siblings, plus my mum without looking at them to lip read, then there are my nieces and nephews, the eldest is 17yrs old, I can hear him fine - THEN there is the other miracle, that is the telephone… I cannot understand anyone on the telephone cos my hearing is garbled and fuzzy (due to recruitment hearing loss) BUT for some unknown reason at all, I can hear my mum, my sisters, my brother and my oldest nephew crystal clear on the telphone…how that happens?? Dont ask, cos I cannot understand ANYONE ELSE.
I think its because its family making sure that they are speaking crystal clear on the phone and making sure I can lip read them…
You need to go back to your family and explain AGAIN, and im sure your own family would do the same.
It wont be overnight, and when they talk to others they do forget about me, so I have to badger/pester them, you need to do the same.