^^^ I can relate to a few of your issues with BTE aids. The newer models are better with moisture (I get a pretty slathering workout at the gym, but live in a very dry climate), but also manage to hook the ear wires on these dang aids with my fingers, comb, etc., and send them flying. For a while I used the leash … but that has its own comfort issues.
As for wearing helmets and even hats (also glasses that perch on top of the mic) … yup. More issues to live with.
I’d consider the ITE aids if they were made with more flexible, giving material.